Thursday Nov 11, 2021
ADHD and Sex
The Soft Science
I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it.
We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want.
We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all —
Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed.
Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t.
What porn women actually watch.
And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy.
This isn’t porn.
This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen.
I do.
Listen on:
Episodes
Episodes
Thursday Nov 04, 2021
Thursday Nov 04, 2021
In this episode, Erika is joined by Cassie Willnauer, licensed therapist that works in the Kansas City area, host of the podcast Sex At Every Size. The ladies are discussing the impact of diet culture on people's minds, bodies, and intimacy. Click here for full show notes
Thursday Oct 28, 2021
Thursday Oct 28, 2021
In this episode, Erika introduces Jennifer Adair from the Center for Mental and Sexual Health (Erika's own practice). They talk about how therapy works and working with clients who question their own worth. Click here for full show notes.
Thursday Oct 21, 2021
Thursday Oct 21, 2021
Erika has Heather McPherson from Practice Outside the Lines on the show to talk all about vulvas and desire discrepancies. As professionals, they go over the patterns they hear about vulvas on a regular basis. What is typical? How do we tease apart the why of arousal? Does culture influence the disconnection women (vulva owners) have with their bodies?
Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/138
Thursday Oct 14, 2021
Thursday Oct 14, 2021
A lot of us don’t realize that we even have bodies, we don’t pay attention to feeling them and being aware of them. Practice being in your body by consciously making a mental connection to one random and particular part of your body, then moving to another part, and another. This same notion of awareness is also important to our sexual experiences.
Somatics is a different way of addressing the client’s needs. We’re not necessarily looking for what’s “wrong”, as in some traditional forms of therapy, but just assessing what’s “present”.
Perhaps, we need to rethink our culture around viewing bodies with a lens of shame and incorporate somatics into clinical practice alongside intellectual/ cognitive methods.
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
I have the wonderful Teena Love on my show today. Teena is a media personality and Podcast Host of “The Lovers’ Lounge“. Teena Love is extremely passionate about educating singles and couples regardless of sexuality, racial and ethnic backgrounds and or socioeconomic status about topics related to love, relationships and sex!
We’re talking about how an abusive relationship can alter your entire life. We’re talking about co-dependency, your sexual self, your mental health, and recovery.
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
Thursday Feb 25, 2021
Thursday Feb 25, 2021
In this episode, Erika talks about how the move to a seasonal format was the best thing and sometimes a little quieting for her mind. She goes over how the season went, and where the podcast goes from here. Hint: It's just going to get better! Click here for full show notes.
Thursday Feb 18, 2021
Thursday Feb 18, 2021
In this episode, the ever amazing Jane Boon joins me to talk about her book, Edge Play. Find the full show notes here.
Thursday Feb 11, 2021
Thursday Feb 11, 2021
Today we're talking to the wonderful Joan Price all about sex at any age, including seniors! We go over the concerns from folks who are aging and their sexual health. We also touch on the emotional and physical changes that they're usually unprepared for. Check out the full show notes here.
Thursday Feb 04, 2021
Thursday Feb 04, 2021
Bianca Laureano joins me in this episode to talk about the trauma going on in the US, especially after an attempted coup by white supremacists. We talk about how power and intersectionality impacts our sex lives. Full show notes here.